Living with a disability can profoundly affect you, as well as the lives of your friends, family and colleagues.  Whether you have been living with your disability for a very short time, or for as long as you can remember, we can help you to come to terms with it and put constructive strategies in place to help you thrive and live life to the full.

The death of a partner, child, parent or friend can send a person into turmoil.  Grief is hard, stressful, tiring and life altering.  It affects people in different ways and can evoke  a range of behaviours, including persistent crying, blaming others, anger and agression or problems with eating or sleeping.  Many Christians can feel angry towards God for allowing this to happen.  The grieving process is long and there are no quick fixes, but with the right interventions and support you can address your grief in a constructive way, without falling apart in the process.

This mental illness usually strikes in late adolescence or early adulthood.  Symptoms of schizophrenia include delusions, hallucinations, out of character behaviour, disorganised speech patterns and lack of energy and motivation.  Individuals with schizophrenia offer suffer a decline in their level of functioning, so they may need to change jobs because they can no longer manage to perform their job to the required standard.  Schizophrenia can also severely impact a person's social life.  Even in its more acute forms, schizophrenia can be treated and the individual can be trained to overcome inappropriate or unhealthy thought patterns or behaviours.  With the right interventions and support a person can become totally free from all schizophrenic episodes.

Whilst fear and anxiety are related, they are very different.

Fear is  a basic survival mechanism occurring in response to a specific stimulus, such as pain or the threat of danger.  Fear is related to two very specific behaviours: escape and avoidance, and it almost always relates to future events (fear of getting cancer, fear of losing my job etc).

Anxiety is an emotional state which can be extremely debilitating and can affect many areas of your life.  Often a person cannot find an identifiable trigger for their anxiety.  Whilst a low level of anxiety can help you deal with a difficult situation, for example at work, when anxiety becomes more severe it is classified as an anxiety disorder and needs to be treated.

We can help you understand the nature of your fear or anxiety and will help you work through it and overcome it in a healthy and constructive way, so that you can thrive and become all that you were meant to be.

 

 

An addiction is an obsession, compulsion, or excessive psychological dependence.  Addictions we commonly deal with include drugs and alcohol, gambling, egomania and addictions to food, computers  and pornography.  Addictions are often accompanied by deviant behaviors such as stealing money to fund a drug addiction, or lying to cover up a pornography addiction.  Many addictions are damaging to a person's physical or mental health, as well to their finances, career and social life.  Addictions are surprisingly common and often creep up on us unnoticed.  Many of the people we meet at Kadayer are deeply ashamed of their addiction, particularly if they are a committed Christian and, in many cases, they have spent a long time trying to hide the problem.  But addictions can be controlled and even overcome.  Sharing your struggle with us is the first stage in achieving this.

Obsessive behaviours also known as obsessive compulsive disorders (OCDs) are recurrent, unwanted thoughts which can become obsessions and can lead to repetitive behaviour, such as having to wash your hands many times before leaving the house.  OCD's make life very stressful for the sufferer and for their family, friends and colleagues.  Many OCD's lead on to other behavioural problems such as eating or sleeping disorders.  The good news is that the destructive cycle of obsessive compulsive behaviours can be broken.  We can help you get to the heart of your OCD and will use a range of therapies including Verbal Behaviour and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy to help you replace the obsessive compulsive behavioural patterns with healthy, constructive ones.

No one ever said that relationships were easy.  We will listen to you and help you to put strategies in place to develop your relationships.  Whether you are struggling with relationships in general, or are in a difficult or challenging relationship, or are contemplating marriage, we can help.

This very common condition, often referred to as ASD, affects how a person communicates with and relates to other people, as well as affecting their ability to make sense of the world around them.  ASD mainly affects men and its causes are still largely unknown.  But ASD is fully treatable and with the right help and interventions a person with ASD can make huge gains and enjoy a far greater quality of life.  Applied Behaviour Analysis (ABA) and Verbal Behaviour are the most effective techniques used to help a person with ASD.  Many of the people we meet also see a nutritionist, homeopath and chiropractor in addition to behavioural intervention and we can help you decide which treatments will be best for you.

 

Many young people are becoming increasingly obsessed about body image and food.  But anorexia and bulimia amongt teenagers is only the tip of the iceberg. Adults can become obsessed with an eating routine which, if broken, can lead to aggressive outbursts.  Chemical imbalances in the brain can also cause food-related problems such as those associated with Prader-Willi Syndrome.  People with autism and a range of other conditions often struggle with eating problems.  But with the right interventions and support an eating disorder, however serious, can be controlled and even overcome.  We can help you understand the underlying causes of your food problem and will come up with a strategy, as well as all the training and support you need, to help you overcome it.

Feeling angry is part and parcel of being human and is of course perfectly normal and healthy.  However an anger problem is quite different and can be very harmful both to yourself and to others.  Do you regularly 'boil over' at the slightest thing? Do you find that getting angry or aggressive is the only way of getting the things that you want or need in life?  Or are you unable to express your anger?  Have you been living with 'bottled up' anger for  many years?

An anger problem which doesn't get dealt with can lead to a person harming themselves or acting aggressively or violently towards others.  But with the right interventions and training you can deal with your anger and aggression in a positive, healthy way. You can learn to control your anger and to replace aggressive outbursts with assertive, positive behaviours.  You can even address unresolved anger from your past.

From bi-polar and manic depression, to milder cases of this condition, depression is an illness which is said to affect 1 in 10 people.  It can be extremely debilitating and often also affects the lives of those around you too.  Depression can provoke a range of unhealthy behaviours such as withdrawal from social situations, excessive sleeping and binge drinking.  But even the most serious forms of depression are completely treatable.  In fact, with the right interventions and support many people with depression can make a full recovery.  The starting point for behavioural interventions is to understand the nature and underlying cause of the unhealthy behaviours.  This is then followed by a detailed strategy outlining how to eliminate the inappropriate and harmful behaviours and how to replace these with appropriate, constructive ones.