The death of someone else close to you or your child can send a family into turmoil.  Grief is hard, stressful and draining.  What's more it affects people in different ways and can evoke  a range of behaviours including persistent crying, blaming others, anger and aggression or problems with eating or sleeping.  Many Christians may also feel angry towards God for allowing this person to die.  The grieving process is long and there are no quick fixes, but with the right interventions and support you can address your grief in a constructive way, so that your family doesn't fall apart.

Depression, schizophrenia, anxiety, eating disorders, family problems and personality disorders can all be classified as emotional or psychological problems.  Childhood disorders such as Attentional Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and separation anxiety can also lead on to psychological problems in adulthood.  There is a wealth of information out there relating to this very complex area.  However, no matter how much you read up on the subject, the reality is that psychological change is difficult to accomplish on your own.

We can help you to get to the heart of your problems and will equip you find a way to overcome or manage whatever you are struggling with.  We can even make a difference when the sufferer doesn't come to the sessions. In fact we often work with families where the person struggling with psychological problems refuses to come and meet with us.  And even in situations like this, the individual can make enormous gains in overcoming their problems.

 

Sibling rivalry is very common.  It can start before the sibling is born and can develop as the children grow and compete for everything from toys to attention. Sometimes sibling rivalry can get out of control, escalating to violent and abusive behaviour.  It can be frustrating and upsetting to watch your chidren fight with one another. A conflict-ridden household creates stress and problems for everyone.  What's more it's hard to know how and even whether to get involved in trying to stop the fighting.

We can help you get to the heart of the relationship problems between your children and can work with the whole family to put a strategy in place to promote harmony and reduce and overcome unhealthy and destructive behaviours and emotions.

A moderate level of stress can actually be good for you, motivating you and helping you to perform better in a whole range of ways.  But too much stress is unhealthy and can often lead to physical and emotional health problems.  Stress is now one of the biggest causes of depression, anxiety and work-related absences in the UK.  We can help you get to the very heart of your problems, identifying the triggers for stress and assisting you to find ways to work through the stress in a healthy and constructive way.

Having one or more family members with special needs or health problems affects everyone in the family.  Where the illness is acute or terminal or the person has severe special needs, your family relationships, finances, career prospects and marriage can all be affected.  We will help you to work through the emotions and practical issues of having a child with special needs and help you implement changes to ensure that your family thrives and achieves its potential.

When a family breaks down it is heartbreaking for everyone and it often the children who suffer most.  Here at Kadayer we love to see broken marriages restored and families coming back together.  But we also recognise that this isn't always possible. Sometimes life is messy.   Sometimes the romantic dream that we once bought into, ends in tragedy.  Sometimes, the break up of the family unit is the only way forward.

We can help you to work through the trauma of separation and divorce and to find practical ways to move forward in your life.  We offer prayer ministry as part of this because we recognise that professional psychological interventions and counselling only go so far.  In our work with families we have seen time and time again that only God can really heal your family at the very deepest level.

The birth of a baby is of course a great source of joy.  But a new baby can also be highly demanding.  What's more, when  the problems are severe, this can impact on many areas of family life.  From sleep and feeding problems, to help diagnosing and addressing a whole range of developmental disorders and conditions, including autism, we can provide the support and interventions you need and help you to get your baby and your family back on track again.

Parenting a teenager can be stressful at the best of times.  But where the teenager is experiencing a serious problem like a drug addiction or aggressive or abusive behaviour, the impact on you, your family and your friends can be devastating.  We will work with you and your teenager to help you understand what the underlying problem is and will produce a strategy to help you mend the relationship and change any inappropriate or undesirable behaviours.  We will also pray with you and for you, if you would like this.

Many parents find the toddler years challenging at the best of times.  But when the toddler's problems are more serious they can drive you to breaking point.  From aggressive and abusive behaviours, to sleep problems and eating disorders, as well as developmental delays and conditions such as autism, we can help.  We will help you get to the very heart of your toddler's behaviour.  We will then produce a strategy to help you reduce and even eliminate undesirable behaviours, as well as giving you the training and support to enable this to happen.  This, combined with prayer and Christian counselling, which is available if you would like it, really can turn things around for you, your toddler and your whole family.

We have seen time and time again that communication issues are often at the very heart of a family's problems.  We will help you to find a way forward by helping you to communicate effectively and manage conflict constructively.  We will then provide the training and support you need to take things forwards and improve your family life.  We will also pray with you and for you as part of the programme, if you would like this.